You Are What You Attract

Today, I ask a question to you that has been looming in my mind since my high school days. That question is, do you feel that the mantra "You are what you attract" is true?

When I say you are what you attract, I am basically saying that if you seem to constantly meet individuals with horrible flaws and deep-seated issues, then maybe you need to look at yourself to figure out why. I personally do not know if this is always a true statement, but I do feel that everybody should take inventory of their best qualities as well as their flaws if they feel that they are meeting the same type of Mr. or Mrs. Wrong. If you know me or you've read this blog, then you know there is a story coming up.

Back in high school, my friend ahmed gave me the nickname "Trick Magnet", since I seemed to have an uncanny knack for meeting women with all kinds of baggage or no common sense whatsoever. Back then, I would just laugh it off or make fun of him because his girlfriend was a linebacker. No bullshit. He really dated the only girl in our school to play on the football team. She didn't look like shaquille oneal or anything disgusting like that, but still. Just the fact that I could call her a linebacker always gave me an ace card to pull whenever ahmed started cracking jokes.

Fast forward to sophomore year in college. I had an unprecedented string of bad luck dating. Almost every woman I went out with was either selfish, dishonest, or just plain slutty. So one day, I had a conversation with the dorm director since she was one of the coolest people I met at Hampton. I told her about the last 5 women I had been out with, and she said "You know what they say...you are what you attract."

I then followed up with "So you're saying I'm a selfish dishonest slut?" To which she replied "You're not selfish or dishonest. Heh heh heh."

I wanted to be like "HA HA HA! VERY FUNNY MOTHERFUCKER!" but since she was trying to help me, I took a step back and reflected for awhile. I came to realize that even though I am not responsible for the numerous character flaws in those women, had I looked at something other than their external beauty I might have seen a lot of that shit coming. So yeah...I ultimately had no one to blame but the man in the mirror...

so yeah, I looked at myself honestly and saw that I was a sucker for beauty and women with low inhibitions and high sex drives. Since that day, I've strived to seek women who have more to offer than just physical beauty. Don't get me wrong, I sometimes get caught backsliding...but overall I've done a good job.

Basically, what I want you all to take away from this post is that honest self assesments can be good for most everyone. If you keep on attracting assholes, maybe there's a reason why. Don't beat yourself up, but just think about it.

have a nce friday folkz........kwaheri kwa sasa!!!